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While I was away, cards arrived from fenchurch and sarah_p - thank you guys!

I said to Jazzy, "Isn't it weird that I mostly get Christmas and holiday cards from people online? When I haven't even met some of them, and I know them all via fandom?"

She looked at me with her 'you're-a-crazy-person' face and said, "No. It's not weird at all."

Then I thought about the fact that, actually, her best friends, her boyfriend, her art pals, virtually everyone she knows - certainly everyone she sent Christmas cards and cookie packages to - are all people she's met online. So to her, getting cards from random people you meet in real life just because you happen to live/work/attend school in proximity to them is weirder than found friends and family that you discover by seeking out gathering places for people with common interests.

Social interactions are a lot different than they used to be.

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maverick_weirdo
Dec. 28th, 2011 04:16 am (UTC)
We have met in person
Of the 28 cards I sent out only 1 went to someone I haven't met face to face*.
4 went to family, and 3 went to people I know independent of fandom or the internet. That's only 75% fandom.

*assuming that we don't count cards fractionally, for example while I know Brooke, I haven't met Joseph or Greg, but I sent the card to all three of them. Should I count it as 1 card to someone I have met, or 1/3 of a card to someone I met and 2/3 a card to people I haven't met?
enigmaticblues
Dec. 28th, 2011 05:24 am (UTC)
Hee! That's so true. But thank goodness for the changes in social interactions. I appreciate the fact that geeks are in. *g*
fenchurche
Dec. 28th, 2011 05:51 am (UTC)
It's funny, because one of my oldest friends is someone I met online... almost 22 years ago. Back then, it was on a local BBS (Bulletin Board System) and, in fact, she went on to meet her husband about a year later on the BBS I ran at the time (they're still married). At the time, when people asked how they met, they had to really work to explain it and even then, a lot of people just didn't get it. But now... it's amazing how commonplace it has become to meet your spouse online!!
sarah_p
Dec. 28th, 2011 08:18 am (UTC)
I think the BEST part of this post is that your daughter DOESN'T think it's weird--that she's learned from you that it is totally possible to make and cultivate real, meaningful relationships through people you meet online (where I've met some of my very best friends). Bravo to you! :)
duncanmac
Dec. 28th, 2011 12:15 pm (UTC)
I'll admit that I'm more likely to send out cards [etc] to someone I know in person than someone I met online. But that may be because I'm admittedly old-fashioned.

A recent experiment with "social bots" on Facebook (done by researchers at UBC) really did not help. Methinks there are *reasons* why Facebook prefers a person's real name -- though that can backfire too. :-/

I remember one philosopher (and theologian, so said person has a patriarchal bias) commenting that there is something admirable in encouraging a community of place or location, rather than a community of friends. But, I'm not sure that this is universal; YMMV, as the saying goes.


Edited at 2011-12-28 12:16 pm (UTC)
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