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I'm really tired of losing people I love...

I found out this morning that my dear friend Andrew (who went by breklor on LJ) just died.

I've known Andrew forever. He's been a friend - and more - over the years. He was actively poly and pagan, so we didn't often run in the same circles, but we had been very casually dating for years. More important than that, though, is we'd been friends for a very long time, even if our busy lives and children meant we didn't get to actually see each other very often. We usually managed to snag some time together at various conventions or filk gatherings, and he's been my main squeeze/date for all my work Christmas parties for the last 4 years.

There is a massive outpouring of grief on Facebook from everyone who knew him, but I absolutely hate Facebook with the passion of 10 thousand fiery suns, and I loath posting there. But I needed to say something about him; he was an amazing man, funny and punny, sweet and intense, playful and silly, intelligent and articulate. We could talk about everything from children to politics to religion to sci-fi to co-ops to music, and more. He had an amazing voice. He was sexy as all get out, and made me feel like I was too. He made me laugh.

The last time I saw him was Conflikt - he made a point of coming all the way out to see me before he headed off to Portland, just so we could spend a couple hours together.

Oh my god, I'm going to miss him so much.

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rahirah
Aug. 15th, 2013 06:52 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry. He sounds like an amazing person.
neevebrody
Aug. 15th, 2013 07:10 pm (UTC)
He does sound like an amazing person. I'm so sorry for your loss, but happy that he blessed so many lives, including yours. {{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}
enigmaticblues
Aug. 15th, 2013 07:47 pm (UTC)
*giant squishy hugs* I'm so sorry for your loss.
peteralway
Aug. 15th, 2013 07:52 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry for your loss.
appomattoxco
Aug. 15th, 2013 07:55 pm (UTC)
So sorry for your loss. [hugs]
em_kellesvig
Aug. 15th, 2013 08:05 pm (UTC)
He sounds like such a wonderful person. I'm so glad you had him in your life and so sad you've lost him. (((hugs)))
darkrefuge
Aug. 15th, 2013 08:05 pm (UTC)
I am sorry for your loss Shad. But as you well know...

"The people we love touch our lives even after they're gone." - Jarod, The Pretender.

He'll be in your heart forever.
paratti
Aug. 15th, 2013 08:36 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry.

((((Hugs))))
alsogater
Aug. 15th, 2013 08:37 pm (UTC)
So sad to hear about your friend. It always is a shock when someone so young leaves us. Seems that he touched your life and many others with his talents and will be a great loss to you and all his friends. {{{hugs}}}
lunabee34
Aug. 15th, 2013 09:01 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry for your loss.
goddess47
Aug. 15th, 2013 09:11 pm (UTC)
If found this on his LJ: At the end of the nude bar's business day, is it clothing time?

I love this guy and I never met him... and now I never will.... it never seems fair, does it?

{{hugs}}
sgamadison
Aug. 15th, 2013 09:15 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss, kiddo. He sounds like an amazing person and that everyone was the richer for having known him. *hugs*
popkin16
Aug. 15th, 2013 11:24 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss :(

sp23
Aug. 15th, 2013 11:30 pm (UTC)
Oh, honey, I'm so sorry for your loss. ((hugs))
melagan
Aug. 15th, 2013 11:40 pm (UTC)
I am so very sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful friend. ((((((hugs)))))))
spikespet7
Aug. 15th, 2013 11:45 pm (UTC)
{{{{HUGS}}}}
cindergal
Aug. 16th, 2013 12:06 am (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss. *hugs*
desdemonaspace
Aug. 16th, 2013 01:37 am (UTC)
I am so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. Please accept my condolences.

I'm also with you on the Facebook hatred.
wonderbadger
Aug. 16th, 2013 03:58 am (UTC)
We knew him too and send hugs while sharing your sadness.
outsideth3box
Aug. 16th, 2013 05:19 am (UTC)
Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry! {{{smishes you}}}
You know where to find me if you need to talk.
Love you and my heart is sad for you.
fishsanwitt
Aug. 16th, 2013 06:35 am (UTC)
::hugs::
missbehavior
Aug. 16th, 2013 09:25 am (UTC)
I DO run in the poly/pagan circles he ran in, and I've seen the hurt pouring out over facebook. I'm so sorry, lady.

If you want me to put you in contact with any of those people, let me know. I know it helps to grieve together. <3
melodysparks
Aug. 16th, 2013 10:49 am (UTC)
I am sorry to hear of your loss. My condolences to you.
kirbyfest
Aug. 16th, 2013 01:26 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry for your loss.
hsifyppah
Aug. 16th, 2013 03:23 pm (UTC)
Oh my god, but he was so young! What happened? :( :( :(

I didn't know him well, but he was so sweet to me every time we met. I'm so sorry.
duncanmac
Aug. 16th, 2013 04:21 pm (UTC)
That **royally** sucks.

[Do not ask for whom the bell tolls ... :-( ]

I never met him, but I have some friends from this (eastern) neck of the figurative woods who are much like him.

Good thoughts your way.


Edited at 2013-08-16 04:21 pm (UTC)
u_must_b_joking
Aug. 17th, 2013 12:48 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry about this. He was so cool. My condolences to all those who are missing him.
molasses
Aug. 18th, 2013 07:46 am (UTC)
i found you accidentally.
i knew, know, love, mourn for Andrew, too.

he was everything you said and i will miss him, too.

much love,
jane
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