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ExOfMine. Unbe-fucking-lievable.

When I went to family court in January, one of the things the judge told ExOfMine was that he did not get to make the decision to stop paying support, the court did. The last thing I did just before we adjourned was to specifically ask if the current order was still in place. She said the original order was in effect until the court says otherwise. I took this to mean he is to continue to pay support for his children in full until the court says it changes.

I just got the child support check from the ex for this month. He only sent half, just like the previous 6 months.

Goddamn fucking asshole bastard.

That is all.

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emrinalexander
Feb. 15th, 2014 06:11 am (UTC)
I firmly believe that people like this need to have their salary/wages garnished by the family court. If they are working and don't pay as ordered, the court usually can order child support payments pulled out by the employer right off the top. I know a lot of ex-wives don't like to take the step of filing for that, but damn it, the fuckers deserve it.
shaddyr
Feb. 15th, 2014 06:47 am (UTC)
We go back to court in April, and believe me, I plan to tell the judge that not only did he only pay half for 6 months, but he continued to only pay half after being specifically told that the current order is still in effect.

WFT, srsly.
emrinalexander
Feb. 15th, 2014 12:48 pm (UTC)
When I was working for a divorce attorney, it was eye-opening how many men thought that child support was governed by if THEY thought they saw the kids enough, if the kids did things THEY wanted ("I'm not paying, I want him to go to trade school, not four-year college!" Yeh...heh - think again DUMBASS, you don't get a say). Then there were the "I'm not paying because my visitation isn't in force (well then don't molest your kids, Pervert), or "I'm not paying because I only have them two weeks in teh summer and I want Xmas," yeh, who cares, dumb ass. My boss used to end up shouting at these guys "Just shut the fuck up and listen - these are your kids and YOU are responsible for them until they hit adulthood, whether you ever set eyes on them or not." My step-son spends his legal career in Florida heading a department whose only task is to hunt deadbeat parents down, toss their asses in court, and then garnish wages. He loves it. Nothing makes his day more than seeing some jerk realize that from now on most of each paycheck is going to his kids because the jerk didn't bother to pay support for the past 8 years or whatever. My best friend in high school married a dead beat who cheated on her the whole time they were married and left her for his current slutbunny when their daughters were 5 and 7 years old. He moved to another state, changed his name and went off the grid all to avoid paying support for his two kids. Her Dad hunted him down personally, dragged his sorry carcass back to PA where he was arrested. She never did get all the money due her, but talk about karma.

One of the reasons I quit being a paralegal was I just ended up loathing so much of what we had to deal with. I still see it working in wrap-around programs for behaviorally challenged kids. The fathers are absentee one way or another over 60% of the cases (even when they're around they're not doing anything with their kids).

I really really hope the court jams a wage garnish order up his ass for you.
filkerdave
Feb. 16th, 2014 09:37 pm (UTC)
I really, really don't get (and really loathe) men like that. Child support is part of your duty as a parent. Screw the court order; I pay it because they're my kids.

shaddyr
Feb. 16th, 2014 09:53 pm (UTC)
Screw the court order; I pay it because they're my kids.

I really like this about you.
yasminke
Feb. 15th, 2014 06:20 am (UTC)
Mine only pays us anything when it's an emergency. Life-threatening.

HUGS
shaddyr
Feb. 15th, 2014 06:47 am (UTC)
Man, that sucks! I am so sorry!

*hugs back*
yasminke
Feb. 15th, 2014 07:06 am (UTC)
Doesn't bear worth thinking about too hard even though he does rub our faces in it often enough.
filkerdave
Feb. 16th, 2014 10:02 pm (UTC)
Ugh.
mercury973
Feb. 15th, 2014 07:20 am (UTC)
Asshole. Really.
shaddyr
Feb. 17th, 2014 01:29 am (UTC)
you know it!
(Anonymous)
Feb. 15th, 2014 11:00 am (UTC)
I know the few men that pay child support, it is taken directly out of their paycheck.

Kimber
curiouswombat
Feb. 15th, 2014 12:27 pm (UTC)
He really should be charged with Contempt of Court - which, here, would put him in jail.
shaddyr
Feb. 16th, 2014 09:53 pm (UTC)
HA! That would be hilarious. I would probably enjoy that far too much.
dan_ad_nauseam
Feb. 22nd, 2014 02:58 am (UTC)
I know this isn't in Oregon, but down here, you can't be charged with contempt for failure to pay pursuant to a court order, only for failure to follow a nonmonetary order.

On the other hand, in the US, it's very easy to put child support on a state-administered wage withholding program, with extra withholding to catch up arrearages.

YMMV.
enigmaticblues
Feb. 15th, 2014 03:21 pm (UTC)
Gah. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that asshole.
shaddyr
Feb. 16th, 2014 09:55 pm (UTC)
I have to remind myself when I get pissed that at least he's followed the court order till now, and it could be far, far worse than it is.

But that doesn't mean I like it when he pulls shit like this. Bah.
u_must_b_joking
Feb. 15th, 2014 06:41 pm (UTC)
Suboptimal
I can't help but be incredibly grateful Paul and I never did this dance. You ex is not going to enjoy the notice of garnishment. Maybe he'll learn, but it's doubtful.
shaddyr
Feb. 16th, 2014 09:57 pm (UTC)
Re: Suboptimal
I like Paul. *grin*

I am trying to keep it in perspective, remember that he could have been like MY dad was to my mom - avoid any contact, not give his current address to avoid mom taking him to court to make him pay child support... but yeah.
sheistheweather
Feb. 16th, 2014 08:22 pm (UTC)
Ugh, for fuck's sake. :(
shaddyr
Feb. 16th, 2014 09:57 pm (UTC)
I know, right?

*hugs you*

You make me smile.
sheistheweather
Feb. 16th, 2014 10:04 pm (UTC)
*hugs you as well* Happy to help.
missbehavior
Feb. 17th, 2014 10:46 am (UTC)
What a douchecanoe.

I like your friends who've suggested garnishment. The asshat deserves it.
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