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Ex of my heart has had me served with papers. Not only is he trying to get the child support order adjusted (which I expected since he is making less than he was) BUT he is trying to get the court to forgive his arrears because of low income.

I just checked the case details online today. I knew that he owed me about $4000 - I was actually wrong about the amount, apparently - he owes me $4800+ including late fees.

And after a year of just blowing me off, and not once NOT ONE SINGLE TIME EVER even bothering to ask if everything was okay, if we were alright, if the kids needed anything... he just expects forgiveness for the whole debt.


Not. Fucking. Likely.

So I've just spent way too long looking at the paperwork - it looks fairly simple, but I never trust anything official - and of course FMEP is all "Oh sorry, we'll enforce your order, but no help with a lawyer, you're on your own, good luck!" so that's teh suck.

Must contact Family Justice. Make an appointment. Figure out what the hell I am doing so I don't screw it up. I'm willing to agree to an adjustment of his monthly payments as long as he's willing to have it go back up when he finds a better job (and wow, that turned into a huge argument when he called me about this - he was upset at me for assuming he would or should get a better job in the future because hey, don't I know what the econmy is like right now? Fucker. I kindly reminded him that I lost my job in August too. Asshole.)

Oi. With a side of vey.




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Oct. 28th, 2009 11:17 am (UTC)
I'm sorry he's putting you and the kids through this. Asshat.
Oct. 28th, 2009 12:54 pm (UTC)
Oct. 28th, 2009 01:11 pm (UTC)
Wow. Good luck with Family Justice. He's definitely being an asswipe.
Oct. 28th, 2009 01:20 pm (UTC)
It never ceases to amaze me that fathers believe that they're so put upon as to be expected to provide support for their children just because they no longer live with them. Poor, poor bastards/sarcasm.
Oct. 28th, 2009 03:06 pm (UTC)
Hang in there
Hey, he should be happy his wages aren't being garnished.
Oct. 30th, 2009 07:13 am (UTC)
Re: Hang in there
They probably will be when the court is done looking at his "request".
Oct. 28th, 2009 03:18 pm (UTC)
Good luck with this. I hope you nail the bastard. I had one of those dads who never lived up to his obligations, too.
Oct. 28th, 2009 04:09 pm (UTC)
So the million $$ question:

Will they take into account his wife's steady income?

I can't decide if I would be more sympathetic to his plight if I knew less about him or not.. nah you manage to keep it together, he can.

I mean, ask mumsipoo, there is NOTHING wrong with her baby...
Oct. 28th, 2009 04:30 pm (UTC)
Have a cookie. I don't know if it'll make you feel better, but at least you'll have a cookie.
Oct. 28th, 2009 05:30 pm (UTC)
Gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah, I'm so sorry he's putting you through this. Again. Jerkass. *hugs*

Is there some way you can get his wages garnished? Because that's ridiculous.
Oct. 28th, 2009 08:54 pm (UTC)
I don't have anything useful to say, just *points to icon* Grrrr!

Oct. 29th, 2009 06:14 am (UTC)
I'll join the chorus of those encouraging wage garnishment, since this ... lousy excuse of a sperm donor ... has shown himself consistently unwilling to meet his obligations.

You? You get hugs. And virtual cookies. And real cookies (or Squirrelly Bread, or whatever), if you can make it down to our housefilk/housewarming in November.
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