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Worst Teacher EVER

That's me. I am the WORST TEACHER.

If I had tried to homeschool my children, we'd all be dead. I would have exploded from the frustration and taken them all out in a blazing fireball.

Girly-girl is taking the HCA course at VCC. She's smart. I know she is. So far, she's gotten 90+ on the couple of tests they've taken. But the homework assignments are KILLING ME.

GG is a slow worker when it comes to homework. She has learning disabilities and is an Aspie just like her brother. School output has always been an issue for her, especially anything interpretive (which I understand, I always hated that crap, too).

Tonight, I've been struggling to help her and not say the nasty things that are on the tip of my tongue. I've already said a couple things I should not have. She doesn't remember anything they talked about in class. She doesn't know what the question means. She's doesn't remember what she did or said in the exercise and the point is to write out what she did and said and the verbal techniques and communication skills and OMG, RAWR!

I? AM NOT A PATIENT PERSON. NO, I AM NOT. I love my children, but there is a reason that I am not a teacher. I am not patient at all, I don't get why other people don't get how to do things. I have always been able to figure shit out pretty quickly and get annoyed when other people don't after I explain it to them. This is an ongoing issue for me at work, but at least they pay me to deal with the idiots there.

You would think I could be loving and patient with my daughter. BUT NO. My trying to tutor my kids is a BAD IDEA. I realized this when they were still in elementary school, which is why I paid for a real-live tutor to come in my house because me doing that would have turned into child abuse. I know my limits, and that is one of them.

Sadly, I don't think I can get her a tutor for this. Dear god. I hope I don't end up giving her PTSD in my effort to help.


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Feb. 20th, 2015 11:15 am (UTC)
You should be able to get a tutor through VCC. I'm not sure how it works in Canada, but here in the States, if you're a disabled student, you can apply for a tutor and other resources through the student counselors or disability resource center.

I'm horrible at math. Through my DRC, they set me up with a tutor for Algebra and I managed to pass the class. To pay it forward, I worked as a note taker in several of my classes and tutored in English and History.

Girly-girl may just need a note taker, someone who will take notes for her (they have to take very good notes), usually a fellow classmate. In one case, though, I took notes for a guy who had several disabilities but we didn't share the class. I went in with him, sat at the back of the room with him, and took notes as if I was taking the class but then he'd say, "Make sure you write that down." for the topics he knew he wouldn't remember. I also worked with him as a study partner. When he took the tests, he had a special proctor--I wasn't allowed in there with him--and he passed with flying colors. BTW, tutors and note takers get paid by the college. Not much but they do get paid. It's a win/win all around.

Check with her school. They should have something very like this in place for LD students. Also have her talk to the instructor; some assignments can be modified for her style of learning. Add in a tape recorder to aid in memory and she should be set.

Hope that helps. :)
Feb. 26th, 2015 04:51 pm (UTC)
She has talked to a someone there about getting assistance; the problem is the last assessment she had was in elementary school and is too old. They got her to fill out some paperwork, but we haven't heard anything back yet.

Thanks for all the ideas!
Feb. 20th, 2015 12:06 pm (UTC)
I think I would be just the same. And as for the one occasion I took my husband out for a driving lesson - least said about that the better!
Feb. 26th, 2015 04:51 pm (UTC)
*grin* Sometimes, trying to teach the people closest to us is just not a good idea.
Feb. 20th, 2015 02:18 pm (UTC)
I'm a great teacher...with people who pick up things quickly. Otherwise? Not so much.

But what em_kellesvig said. I know we have the Americans with Disabilities Act here, but surely Canada has something similar? And public schools have to make accommodations for students with disabilities, including learning disabilities.
Feb. 26th, 2015 04:53 pm (UTC)
Yeah, she did get assistance and was in a modified program in elementary in and high school. We're looking into getting her help through VCC - I am hopeful we'll figure something out.
Feb. 20th, 2015 02:45 pm (UTC)
I'm in the same boat. I can tell somebody - "you do it like this," outline the steps, and then I am done. When they don't get it I just want to scream. This is why they don't let me train people at work.

I feel for both of you - homework sucks at the best of times. I always hated trying to explain how I knew the answer or whatever, because I could never quite explain how I got to the conclusion of anything.
Feb. 26th, 2015 04:55 pm (UTC)
Oh, man I so get it. I am just NOT a patient person, and find myself gnashing my teeth over having to repeat instructions.

Well, as I keep telling Girly, this is not forever. Thank god!
Feb. 21st, 2015 12:35 am (UTC)
What Mischief said...

And a couple more tricks:

--if the school won't provide a note-taker, GG should cozy up to one of the doing-better-than-her students and beg them to make a copy of their notes as they go along... She can offer to pay them in food

--there's always someone else struggling; get GG to get together and maybe they will have complementing issues and can help each other out

--what sorts of resources does the instructor offer? Office hours? Email access at night? A phone number? Don't abuse the phone, but if there's email, use it!!!!

Breathe.... ;-)
Feb. 26th, 2015 04:57 pm (UTC)
Oh, that's a good idea! I did tell her to ask some of the other girls she's been getting to know if they could share notes or maybe study together.

It sounds like talking to the teacher is a challenge (very busy) but I keep telling her she's GOT to ask about things that she doesn't understand. Maybe make a list of questions so she can be prepared for exactly what she needs to ask about.

Feb. 22nd, 2015 03:26 am (UTC)
I am right there with you. So not patient. My dad was the same way with me, to the point where my mother wouldn't let him help me with my math homework.
Feb. 26th, 2015 04:58 pm (UTC)
HA! My mom was the WORST at helping with homework, she had ZERO tolerance. She was even worse that I am.
Feb. 23rd, 2015 03:49 am (UTC)
Ha! I feel you. The one time I tried to help Ems with a math problem, she was so convinced I was a stupid dumbass that I vowed her dad would help her henceforth.

[I am ready to send you perfume! PM me your friend's addy and I'll get it out to you.]
Feb. 26th, 2015 05:35 pm (UTC)
Oh, my! Yay, dad to the rescue.

OH MY GOSH I have not been on LJ in DAYS and have barely checked my email since last week - I totally missed this.

I am so sorry! Will send a message right away.
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