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My own personal wake up call

Sunday night, I got a message from CousinSnooty. CousinK, her younger brother and my favourite cousin growing up, was airlifted from the northern town he lives in to the hospital in Winnipeg. He has a Type B aortic dissection that was misdiagnosed as back pain by the local doctor at the hospital. He drove 3 hours from his job site to a slightly large town where they almost did it again (it's just back pain, son, walk it off!) but at least the doc there was smart enough to do enough tests to discover the problem. Thank god.

I haven't really had a lot of contact with my extended family of origin since my mom died. There are a lot of reasons, and some of them are really good ones! But there's nothing like losing someone (or being in danger of losing them) to bring clarity to the fact that life is just to damn short to let hurt feelings prevent you from trying to mend relationships with people you care about.

So. This was my own personal wake up call that my family, as annoying and frustrating and hurtful as they may sometimes be, are still my family. And the ones that I can stand to be in relationship with - well, I'm going to try and be in relationship with them. At least to the extent that I can do so and still maintain my mental health (such as it is).

That is all.

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selenic76
Feb. 11th, 2016 07:38 pm (UTC)
Yeah, family is family, for better or for worse... But your mental health is important, so take care of it. Like by coming to the next Squee Weekend? :)

But seriously, I do understand. I haven't had major breakouts with my family, but I'm not close with most of them either. I see my dad and his wife once a year for Christmas, and that's enough for me. My mom died when I was eleven, and all my grandparents are gone too.

My brother and sister I do love, and I wish I remembered to keep in touch with them more. This was a good reminder for me as well, that the people we love won't be around forever, and I should take the time to cherish them while I can.

*HUGS*
shaddyr
Feb. 14th, 2016 12:24 am (UTC)
Cherish - good word. So right.

Hmmm... would love to come to Squee this year but I fear money may be too tight. You lot bring great joy to my life so I hate to miss it bur we shall see.

*Hugs*
opalescence
Feb. 12th, 2016 12:43 am (UTC)
I think that's a great wake up call and one that many may not experience until it's too late. I can relate.
lunabee34
Feb. 12th, 2016 02:47 am (UTC)
*Hugs*

Speedy recovery to your relative.
shaddyr
Feb. 14th, 2016 12:24 am (UTC)
Thanks!
cflute
Feb. 13th, 2016 02:09 am (UTC)
Wishing your cousin a swift and thorough recovery...

All of what you said resonates very strongly just now, in the wake of my own recent, profound loss, which happened just after the con was over.

*hugs*
shaddyr
Feb. 14th, 2016 12:25 am (UTC)
Aww, due, I'm sorry to hear that.

Hugs
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